The Birth of Ellary: A Brooklyn Home Birth

 This beautiful healthy home birth in Brooklyn was part of my ongoing project documenting NYC home births, celebrating the labor process and the wonderfully skilled midwives and doulas who assist these incredible women and their partners through this intense experience. I was excited when upon waking up I saw a text from Alex, Lisa’s partner– she was in labor!  I rushed to grab my gear and headed to South Brooklyn without stopping for a coffee even– I’ve learned the hard way that you just never know how fast these things will go, but I was in luck– I got there just in time to capture her water breaking.  From there it was amazingly quick — this was truly a stellar example of everything going smoothly and easily during a home birth!  Their first daughter, Basil, was being kept busy with a nanny until it was time to come in and meet her baby sister.  Both Lisa and her partner Alex are acupuncturists, and had been through one home birth experience before. Below the photo slideshow and gallery you can read Lisa’s own reflections on her birth experience at home with Midwife Miriam Schwarzchild and Doula Terry Richmond.

How did your labor go?  Describe your birth experience as you remember it…
My labor was shockingly fast, only 8 hours. Since labor for my first daughter was 27 hours, I was expecting another long labor. This one was textbook. Contractions started at 5:30am about 3-4 minutes apart and got progressively stronger until she was born. I was very talkative and was able to laugh and tell stories the entire process (which was very different from the first time). The weather was gorgeous that day, sunny and about 75 degrees so I was able to labor outside in our back yard for a few minutes at a time which was a really nice change of scenery. I spent most of the time laboring standing at the end of the kitchen table. I did try to get into the birth tub earlier in the day but that slowed contractions so i got back out after about 10 minutes b/c I really wanted it to be a quick labor. As soon as i got out things started to progress again. We also talked about having Alex do acupuncture to speed labor but we decided i did not need it.
Our amazing doula, Terry, arrived at about 9:30 and our phenomenal midwife, Miriam, arrived about 11. Our nanny, Iryna, came to take our daughter, Basil, out to the park. I remember looking at the clock at 12:52 and asking my husband to text Iryna to tell her to bring Basil home for lunch and her nap. She text back right away and said they were on their way home. Just after I read the text, I had another strong contraction and i felt my water break. I said, “Oh! My water just broke!” and a few seconds later a big gush came. That was a really crazy feeling. We got some towels and headed downstairs to the birth tub. Contractions got extremely strong after that and as soon as i got into the tub I had my first urge to push. I fought those first 2 urges to push b/c it didn’t feel like I was open enough to get the baby out. I was a little scared. It was the most intense sensation i have ever felt. I know there was some cursing that came out of my mouth. I remember thinking that wasn’t a nice way for the baby to come into the world but i couldn’t help it. It was so intense. I turned over so i was more belly up in the tub and the urge to push felt better. I could feel the head coming down the birth canal and she started crowning. This burned a lot and i thought i was going to tear. I told this to Miriam and she helped me point out where it was burning. She put pressure in one spot and i tried to push myself around the head to help the process. the next push her head came out but since i could feel everything I said, “Her shoulders are stuck!” Miriam said they were not stuck and she did a little maneuver to guide one shoulder out at a time. (She told us later that if both shoulders come out at the same time, the mother usually tears pretty bad. I wonder if less people would tear if they had feeling down there so they could tell the dr./nurse what they are feeling. She also said the cord was also wrapped around her neck and she unwrapped it but since she is such an amazing midwife, i had no idea she did any of that.) She was born at 1:31pm. I was SHOCKED we had another daughter. Happy but surprised. I couldn’t stop smiling b/c labor had been so much easier and shorter and we had another healthy, beautiful daughter! It was awesome to see Basil meet her new sister.
How did you feel about the care you received?
Our midwife is THE best. She is very relaxed and really allows pregnancy and labor to be the natural process it’s supposed to be. But she also knows when to step in and exactly what to do. She’s amazing and I would never want anyone else to help me birth my babies. And our doula is also amazing. She is so knowledgeable and supportive. Our nanny was a big part of easing our minds during labor as well b/c we knew Basil was in good hands.
Did you feel safe?  What went well?  What didn’t?
Everything about this labor went well. It was fast, easy, I felt like I was in control of the situation, each event that should happen during labor happened and in the order you would expect it to happen. Besides the 2-3 pushes that I didn’t feel ready to push, it was a classic, textbook, beautiful experience.
Describe the experience of pain during your labor and if possible describe you handled it in your mind, and what, if anything physical, helped you manage it.
Labor doesn’t feel great. But at no point did i think that it was something I couldn’t handle. When contractions started, I remembered the feeling and thought, “Okay, I can manage these.” Each one got stronger and it does hurt but if i concentrated on breathing the energy of the contraction down into my cervix, it really felt like i was in control of it, not the other way around. It also helped that i kept thinking “Surrender to the process. My body knows what to do. Accept and own the sensations.” My mom gave me good advice as well. She said “Just remember, each contraction you have you are one  closer to having your baby. You never have to do that one again.” Terry helped remind me to make deep sounds during contractions and to keep my shoulders relaxed. the more relaxed i stayed, the less pain i felt. The birthing tub feels great but as i found out, if you get in too early, it will slow labor. For several weeks before i either went to our office or treated myself at home with acupuncture to help prepare my body. Maybe this helped me to have a much easier, faster labor.
How did the reality compare with the birth plan?  What surprised you?
This was exactly how I hoped labor would go. It was actually way better than i thought it would be. I was really anxious b/c my first labor was so long and I knew how it felt. this was so much easier. Yes, I was very surprised. It was a really nice day-we had a baby, watched the Ohio State football game, ordered Thai food and slept in our own bed:)
Describe the moments after birth, and/or what went through your mind when you were meeting your new baby for the first time.
I was so joyful. Everything was so perfect. Nothing could have been better. Ellary was healthy, I was healthy (not even a tear). I was thinking how lucky we were, how beautiful she was, how much easier this labor was and SO glad it was over.
Linda - March 19, 2016 - 5:37 am

Great photos. I love seeing birth photography. Having had such a positive experience giving birth to my daughter, I love to share in others’ happiness in the birth of their own children. Kudos to you and all other birth photographers who photograph births. I can only imagine how tough it must be with long hours and never knowing when you’re going to be needed.

Kevin’s storybook proposal at Books of Wonder

Kevin wrote to me with a wonderful proposal idea and wanted to see if I could shoot it in a way I wouldn’t be noticed to surprise his intended. He had had a storybook created with help from an illustrator– it looks amazing and tells the story of how he and his girlfriend had met, where they went on their initial dates, things that happened in their lives leading up to his proposal, and even had the illustrator draw them in the outfits they were wearing in these stories. He had me arrive early and place the book on a shelf we pre-planned for him to ‘find it’ at Books of Wonder, a fabulous independant children’s book store who’s proprietors were so gracious to let us do this… On the way to dinner reservations with her he made sure they had some extra time to kill and suggested they duck in and browse for a minute… his plan worked perfectly and she was so delighted by the book and his proposal at the end of it. I loved capturing this for them and was able to make a few sweet night portraits by some trees down the block that were lit up with Christmas lights. Congratulations!

Karin & Michael’s wedding at Liberty Warehouse

Karin & Michael were married on a beautiful fall evening in November at The Liberty Warehouse in Red Hook, Brooklyn.  The location is a stunning example of “rustic industrial” done right– the facility has beautiful deck areas for viewing the statue of liberty and manhattan skyline across the water, and of course the sunset was lovely as it went down behind the couple and their wedding party during the tail end of our outdoor portraits.  I started the day with Karin’s preparation while my assistant shot with the guys over at the Gild Hotel in Manhattan.  After a sweet first look indoors, Karin & Michael were willing to brave the windy conditions and let me get some portraits of them outside– I love what we got– it was cold of course so she kept her chic white leather jacket on most of the time!  Once back upstairs safe indoors we shot the wedding party and family groups before guests began to arrive for the evening’s celebration.  After a Ketubah signing in the bridal suite with family and friends witnessing, all made their way to the ceremony space.  I was moved by the officiant’s wonderful presentation– she had a lot people in tears it seemed!  Afterwards guests enjoyed a foodie-friendly cocktail hour before making their way down one level to the reception space, which was decked out and looking incredible with candles and flowers and twinkling string lights over the dance floor.  Highlights of the reception included some very sweet toasts, a special anniversary dance for the bride’s parents, and an incredible performance by 45 Riots!  Congratulations to Karin & Michael!

 

Credits:

Venue & Catering: The Liberty Warehouse

Event Planner: Jackie Travers of Busy Bride

Floral Design: Designs by Rose

Wedding Gown by: Elizabeth Dye

Hair by: Eden Fabbo

Makeup by: Elizabeth Drucker

Bridesmaid Dresses by: Amsale

Groom’s attire: Freemans Sporting Club

Invitation Design:  Lion In The Sun

Ketubah: Nava Shoham

Music: 45 Riots

Videography:  Mint Wedding Cinematography

 

Rachel & Jonathan: Engagement Portraits at South Street Seaport & Battery Park

Rachel & Jonathan are getting married next June at Cold Spring Harbor Country Club on Long Island. For their engagement portraits they selected a few sweet spots in lower Manhattan– namely South Street Seaport and Battery Park. We met on a cobble-stoned corner downtown and made our way towards the water. What a beautiful day we had! After getting some shots out by the boats and a Brooklyn Bridge view we hopped in a cab and headed down towards the southern tip of Manhattan near the Staten Island Ferry. From there we walked through the park hitting several areas this couple was fond of from their walks there. Check out my favorites from their shoot!

Laura & John’s Wedding at Current

Laura and John were wed on a beautiful October Saturday at one of Abigail Kirsch’s newer venues, Current, at Chelsea Piers.  We were just blocks from the High Line Park so naturally I shot Laura & John’s couple portraits up there and then returned to meet their wedding party and family groups for the rest of the formals inside since there were fairly strong winds over there by the Hudson river.  I was particularly excited to see what Laura had in store for us as she is an editor at Real Simple, and WOW she came up with such great ideas for her wedding decor!  I was particularly enamored with the Apples tagged as escort cards- they made such a pretty entryway table display!  I was floored by the “floating ring” Chuppah put together by the florists at Atlas.  I’ve never seen anything like it– they did a marvelous job and it looked incredible there during the ceremony.  Another neat idea was having the guests sign and write messages on Jenga pieces that the couple can keep and use.  And I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention that they had a gorgeous cake from Momofuku Milk Bar— check it out!   Not only were the details incredible but there was so much love in the air all day long– from their first look through the toasts to the parent dances, the atmosphere was rich with sweet emotions.  I particularly loved hearing the couple’s own toast in which Laura told a very funny story from the beginning of their relationship, when she and John were separated long distance but knew it was real even though they’d only just met a little while before she’d left the country.  It is so nice when couples aren’t afraid to share their experiences and tell a story or two at their wedding– you can always tell that the guests love hearing these stories, and of course so do I!  It was such an honor and a pleasure capturing these special wedding memories for Laura & John– with any luck maybe we’ll get to read Laura’s wedding planning tips on Real Simple sometime soon!

Vendor Credits:
Wedding Day-of Coordinator: Paul Macias
Wedding gown: Jenny Packham
Bride’s shoes: Manolo Blahnik 
Hair & Makeup: Paul Labrecque
Getting Ready Location: Hotel Indigo
Bridesmaid dresses: Adrianna Papell 
Groom’s suit/tux: Black by Vera Wang
Ties by Burberry
Officiant: Angela Kwan
Invitation Design: Minted
Catering: Abigail Kirsch
Music: Radio Undergound / Element Music
Bride’s Veil: Jenny Packham
Favors: Custom mini champagne bottles from personalwine.com
Calligraphy & Chalkboard Signage: Kurtz McKinnon Creative LLC
Custom cocktail hour napkins: weddingpaperdivas.com